i want you
When women say "i want you", we are neatly combining many differing and possibly self-contradictory things we would like to say, but either lack the words or the courage to say them. I want you to be around me, i want you to agree with me, i want you to support me, i want you to affirm me, i want you to make me laugh, i want you to take care of me, i want you to change me, i want you to change for me, i want you when i'm afraid, i want you.
Of course, in the process of wanting others, we may well be found wanting by them. But, our capacities for reciprocation, generosity, care, expression, thoughtfulness and all the other attributes may well not be enough for another. You can want someone too much, one person's detachment is smothering to someone else. Whether wanting is measured in quality or quantity depends entirely on the individuals concerned. Unfortunately, there's no hard and fast guidelines for us to follow – we just have to muddle through, minds fogged by emotions.
Is it the pursuit of companionship, a realisation of pragmatism, the search for the divine or simply humane instincts which drive us into wanting someone? Or a combination of these? Frankly, i'll never know.
Of course, in the process of wanting others, we may well be found wanting by them. But, our capacities for reciprocation, generosity, care, expression, thoughtfulness and all the other attributes may well not be enough for another. You can want someone too much, one person's detachment is smothering to someone else. Whether wanting is measured in quality or quantity depends entirely on the individuals concerned. Unfortunately, there's no hard and fast guidelines for us to follow – we just have to muddle through, minds fogged by emotions.
Is it the pursuit of companionship, a realisation of pragmatism, the search for the divine or simply humane instincts which drive us into wanting someone? Or a combination of these? Frankly, i'll never know.
